What’s wrong with online dating?
I bet you ask yourself that question. Almost all of us tried it, even if we don’t admit it, and for sure all of us have an opinion about online dating. We all know there is something wrong with online dating. First of all, you can’t “date” anyone online. You can only meet a person online. The same as you can meet a person at a party, through friends, in a bar, at work, school, seminar, coffee shop, you name it. Online is only a meeting spot, or to be precise a way to find each other in this big beautiful world of ours. Where do we date people? We date them offline, we meet them for coffee, or dinner, or drinks, and then we have a chance to get to know them, click, and maybe even fall in love.
So why there is something wrong with online dating? Well, we spend hours and hours building a one beautiful profile, and there are lots of articles out there that will tell you what to make your profile shine. It needs to shine because there are thousands of other profiles just like you, same page, same town, similar looks. You want to stand out, you use the right photo, you say the right thing, you mention your interests, and hobbies, and you pick the once that will increase your chance of catching someone’s attention. Sounds like a lot of work, and we haven’t even started yet.
What’s next? You can start browsing through profiles, and there are many, and it takes time, you finally message a few. You get no responses, so you message some more, and more, and after days, and hours of messaging, you get some responses, you start some communication, and weeks later you finally meet. Of course by then your expectations went through the roof, and you should be ready to face some bitter disappointment. What if you get all excited, and the communication ends somewhere in the middle of nowhere, and you don’t know why. She just stopped writing, or he did. Sounds familiar?
You could be at the other end of it. You might be getting hundreds of irrelevant messages, and most of them really short. It’s hard to choose who to respond to because they didn’t write much, and they didn’t write much because people don’t usually respond to them so they don’t want to waste too much time writing, they’d rather message a lot, and write very little.
Did you know that only a very tiny percent of online dating users actually go out on real dates? And isn’t it the main purpose of it all? Now you understand better why that is.
What’s with all those people on online dating sites that never want to actually meet anyone? Usually they are in relationships, and their just using online dating to test the waters. How can you tell you just came across somebody like that? You can’t really. You will probably waste hours, and days until you find out you are just being played. It happened to all of us at one point or the other.
What if online dating was made easier? What if online dating was only about finding the person that really wants to go out on a date, and making that date happen? What if you could use online dating to line up a few dates, meet many people, get to know them, and finally choose the one you really feel strong about? What if you could skip all that chatting, messaging, making your profile shine, and focus on finding a wonderful person, and a great date idea? A person and a date!
You could say then we found each other online, we met for coffee, we started dating! That would be an amazing online dating experience, wouldn’t it be? That is how online dating can be a whole new experience like nothing you’ve ever seen before.