You don’t have to view many of the male profiles on internet dating sites for married people to understand why married men cheat.
A large proportion are quite open that they do not find filling out the profile box easy. Trying to make excuses for their prospective infidelity makes them feel guilty. But the majority will admit that they feel unloved and undervalued at home.
There are one or two who try to brazen it out and cockily announce their wealth and business success and all the places they would like to take a woman. However, many of these latent Casanovas will be equally as uncertain as the more honest site members. To the more perceptive woman, it becomes obvious that the more noise they make, the less confident they really are.
The lion’s share of the male members of these dating services for married people are bored and frustrated. Most still love their wives and view them as their best friend and life partner.
But the lustful passion is a thing of the past. In many cases, the sex act itself has almost disappeared altogether and any intimacy exists only in relation to their financial situation or the upbringing of their children.
Certainly the men in question have no wish to disturb this superficially happy family scenario but they need something more from life.
Their libido is prickling their self-esteem and making them ask why their wife no longer seems to want or desire them.
Unfortunately, for many men, it’s not that their wives don’t feel sexually attracted to them personally, but that they are so exhausted by the daily trauma of raising kids, they don’t have any energy left to think about sex at all. And many will not have the inclination to question the need for business trips or client entertaining.
And this is the real answer to the question ‘why do married men cheat?’
The fragile egos of a lot of men equate sex with love. So, they feel diminished if they are not receiving that type of attention on a regular basis. Without that intimacy they begin to feel inadequate and worthless.
If a partner of either sex feels neglected or starved of affection within a marriage, eventually they will look to inject some excitement back into their life.
But unmarried women are a source of possible future problems. Most single females are looking for more than just a light hearted bit of fun with no strings attached. Their goal is a husband or life partner and, in the wake of ‘Fatal Attraction’, no married man wants to find himself with a potential bunny boiler scenario.
Safer to engage with similarly dissatisfied wives who will not want to jeopardise their own family life but are looking for some extra-marital attention of their own.