Before I get into to it I want to make sure everyone is up to date. First, make sure you have signed up for the free crash course on approaching and attracting women at my website. Second, make sure you have read my first articles called “How to make a move – Keys to dating”. There is some info in both the course and the previous article you will need to get the most out of this one.
Ok, so last time we looked at “crucial moments” you experience when dating a girl. These are the moments most guys get a large case of nerves from as they have the potential of leading to rejection.
We looked at the scenario of getting a girls number, and also asking for a date. Today we look at how to prepare and act on the first date, and then the ever so nerve wracking first kiss.
Ahhh the first date. I love the first date. I get charged up. I love women and I get excited to explore each one I go out with.
On the first date, you want to make a good impression, but you also have to treat it as though it is her opportunity to make an impression on you.
I know many guys who go into it thinking they have to do everything they can to impress. I don’t agree with this mindset. Sure, I’m going out to show her a good time. But I’m also looking to see if she meets up to my standards.
A few things you must do before each date:
Shower – Maybe even twice. Scrub yourself down. Wash every little flap, crevice, hair etc. on your body. And wash your feet for crying out loud.
Wear clean clothes – Especially socks! And please make sure your outfit is coordinated. I wrote an earlier article about self improvement in the area of appearance that you can look up if you want some more tips on wardrobe.
Brush, floss, rinse and scrape – I remember one girl I went out with that had horrid breath. It was a complete turnoff even though she was extremely attractive. Don’t fall into the same boat.
Brush your teeth. Use a tongue scraper (Honestly, this is so important) and floss. Follow this up with a rinse with mouthwash.
Wear a cologne – A recent survey I did revealed Lacoste Red, Guess Man and CK Euphoria (best 3 out of 15 tested). You don’t have to rush out and buy one of these, just make sure you smell nice.
Ok, now on to the date itself.
It’s important to act calm and relaxed when you meet the woman. Almost indifferent. This doesn’t mean you ignore her or act cold towards hers, but you don’t automatically act as though she is someone you are interested in.
Make sure you don’t fall into the trap of having an “interview” type date. So many first dates involve the typical questions like “tell me about your family” or “what did you take in school” blah blah blah. These questions are really just time fillers. I avoid them altogether on a first date.
Try to be funny and confident. It is better to be laid back and bring up funny topics than be like every other guy and ask the above questions. Keep it light. I go into this in more detail in my free crash course – sign up today if you have not already.
Approach the date as though she has to prove her worthiness to you. You don’t want to be one of those guys who automatically goes into it with the idea that he has to do everything he can to impress her.
Remember, you want to make a good impression but you want to come across as unique. And, as I have talked about in the past – you want to make her see you as a challenge.
Let’s jump into my favorite moment. The first kiss.
This is where guys tend to be extremely nervous. However, there is no need to be. Let me give you some tips so that you will know when the time is right, and how to execute. Here is a great way of gauging if she will be responsive.
While you are talking to a girl, start stroking her hair. Making a comment like “your hair is so soft” is always a good idea. If she seems to enjoy this, then I have no fear of going in for a kiss.
You don’t have to stroke her hair – gently rub her leg, hold her hands etc. Just make a simple gesture that involves some form of physical contact and then read her reaction.
Her body language will tell you a lot. Does she lean into you? Is she smiling? Does she touch you back? Does she giggle? These are all very positive things.
Follow your instincts and then just go for it. If you have been following my advice from the crash course you signed up for at my website, then you have most likely built up her level of attraction to the point she is dying to kiss you.
Remember. It is imperative you pay attention to her body language and that you have built up her comfort level throughout your time with her. Most importantly – shove aside any of your hesitations. You can’t let your nerves stand in the way of a passionate kiss.
Once you get past stage you open up the doors to all sorts of kinds of intimacy. It can be a big turning point in your interaction with a woman.
That wraps it up for today. Hopefully you feel comfortable in making a move and going in for that first kiss! Feel free to email me with any questions or stories you might have!