The internet has become the dating method of choice for millions of people and the vast majority of them, including myself, have been very happy with the results. Is it risky? Yes it is but so is dating in general. Remember these common sense tips and you’ll be as safe as you possibly can be when dating online.
If you are looking for suitable dates on line you could be talking to a lot of interested people. They don’t all need to know where you live or your phone number. Don’t give them this information until you know them a lot better and you’ve met them in the real world.
Wherever there is opportunity there will be a small number of thieves and criminals. The Internet provides many opportunities for thieves and con men so there is a small possibility that you might meet one of them online. Thieves who prey on people looking for dates online are most likely to be after one thing – your money. So don’t ever give them any or enter into any financial transaction with them no matter how plausible their story is.
This is a very important tip because it’s a common ploy of online thieves to persuade you to do things like opening a bank account that they have access to so that they can deposit money into it. They invent some reason for you to draw out the money and send it to them, which you do because everything looks ok. Some time later the bank informs you that the check that had been cleared into the account was forged and the money has been removed from your account. It’s a simple confidence trick so don’t fall for it.
Ask as many questions as possible and look for inconsistencies in his story. Find out where he lives, how old he is, where he works, what he does and anything else you can think of. The more he tells you the more certain you can be of his sincerity.
Confidence tricksters tell you a pack of lies to get you to do what they want you to do. It’s very difficult to make up an elaborate set of lies that are all believable and don’t contradict so it’s not difficult to see through it if you look carefully enough. You only have to find one piece of information that you can definitely identify as a lie to cast doubt over everything else he tells you. If you find that he’s lying then walk away.
Now that you have a lot of information about your new friend you can do a background check on him here
You’ll be able to check that he lives where he says he does, that he doesn’t have a criminal record, how old he is, whether he’s married or not and loads more. If the background check doesn’t agree with what he tells you or he simply doesn’t seem to exist then you should walk away.
When you feel that you’re ready you’ll want to meet your new friend in the flesh. When the time comes make sure that you arrange to meet in a public place in broad daylight. You should have checked out his background by now so you can afford to be relaxed about it but you should still avoid giving out your personal information until you know that you are interested in seeing him again.
Always make sure that you tell a friend where you are going and who you’re going to meet. Arrange to check in with them at a certain time so that they know all is well. It’s unlikely that you’ll have a problem if you’ve followed the tips above but it’s good to have a back up plan to raise the alarm if anything goes wrong.
Before you get too serious with a person you should try to talk to his friends about him. This is where you’ll find out the real story of what he’s like and how easy he is to live with.
Never give him money or enter into any financial transaction with them. You might want to do this at some time in the future but don’t even think about it now.
Don’t rush into anything. Give yourself time to get to know your new friend and check him out. If he’s worth it he’ll understand and your future relationship together will be all the better for it.
Is online dating safe? It can be and it is for thousands of happy couples around the world. I know because I’m one of them. Follow these tips and enjoy safe Internet dating.