Barmag N 112 Mars 2017
Want to succeed in online dating? Your dating profile (or personal profile) may well be the difference between success and failure. Why?
Well, online, you are what you write. Your personal ad is your first introduction to the person you want to meet.
You see, during face to face communication other aspects such as body language, choice of clothing, individual scent, body language, poise etc. all come to play. While extremely few people (if any) are strong in all the aspects, your one or two strong areas might be so endearing that the other person might forgive or not even notice the weaknesses.
But in online dating all you have is your profile. Lose here and lose all.
Not only that but writing your profile does other positive things to you like:
1. Makes you admit that you do need to find a date.
2. Forces you to look deeper into yourself and get to know the real you.
3. Allows you to be specific about the kind of person you are looking for, beyond the basics.
I cannot overemphasize the importance of a winning dating profile, especially for the single person seeking a serious relationship.
Now, get pen and paper ready, get comfortable. You are going to take a few notes that will make your dating profile talk for you. We begin with the skeleton.
There are three key points to writing an appealing dating profile:
1. Know what you want
2. Know yourself
3. Know the type of person you want
Let’s break each of these down farther:
1. Know what you want: think about what you are looking for such as:
o A serious relationship
o Casual relationship
o A date
o A discreet partner
o An escort
o A companion
o A friend, pen pal, or e-pal
Other things that it might help think of are:
o Kids or no kids (now or in future)
o Your sexual orientation/preference
o Age range
o Race, if it’s an issue
o Religion, if this is important to you
o Geographical proximity
o Educational background if that’s important to you
Write it down.
2. Know yourself- Apart from the generic information such as your age, height and weight, you will need to know your qualities, assets and liabilities as well as hobbies, likes and dislikes. Think about:
a. Your assets: Some things to think about are:
o Sense of humor
o Ready for commitment
The above are just examples, and don’t even scrape the surface. Let your mind run. Write down everything, however trivial or ridiculous.
b. Your liabilities: these may just be opposites of assets (above) or more. List these down. Here are some examples:
o Jealous (not always a bad thing)
o Afraid of commitment
o Substance abuse or history of
o Hard to live with
Other things to think about:
o What are your strengths?
o What are your weaknesses?
o What do you like to do in your spare time?
o Where do you like to go in your spare time?
o What do your friends like about you?
o What does your mom love about you?
o If you were to change one thing about you, what would that be?
o What type of relationship do you seek?
o What are your likes/dislikes?
o What makes you good company?
3. The type of person you want: This may appear easy, but surprisingly most singles do not know what they are looking for beyond the basics.
Now, try to go beyond physical attributes and get into the soul of the person you want. Think of qualities you would like, just as you thought of your own. Also remember that similarities as well as differences do make good matches (a talkative person might match well with a quiet one, for example).
Now you have most of the basics of writing your dating profile covered. Plus, you now can provide answers to profile questions on any dating site without struggling too much.
The next step is writing your personal ad. This is the heart of your dating profile. We shall cover this in part 2.